Wednesday, June 2, 2010

It's a baby's world...

So I've only been married for about a month and a half now...and it seems all I hear about is who is having a baby, who found out they are pregnant and people asking when we are going to have a kid of our own.  Usually it's people on the outside - coworkers, neighbors, friends and family...but lately Andrew has really been pushing to start a family.  As excited as I am that he really wants to have kids, I've been kind of caught off guard.  Before we got married we laid out a time line for when we'd like to start our family. I also believed that we agreed we'd be married for about a year, enjoy being newlyweds and then we'd think about trying. But the moment he got a ring on my finger he started, I don't want to say harassing me, but he really started in on the whole baby thing.  My co-worker Lauren had her first son about 2 months ago (and let me tell you, he is the cutest little thing in the world) and Andrew's co-worker had her first daughter about a month ago. I feel like Andrew has baby fever.  There are babies everywhere and 3 of our friends are now pregnant and expecting a child. I have things that I want to do before we start a family - we just booked our trip to Orlando in September, which was not cheap. There is no way we can start trying to have a kid now!  I won't be able to fully enjoy my vacation if I'm 3-4 months pregnant. I won't be able to ride on the coasters or drink or do most things I'd like to do while there. In March of next year Andrew's parents are supposed to take us all on a Moore Family Cruise to the Southern Caribbean and I am so excited for that trip.  But again, if we get pregnant we won't be going.  So today we came to an agreement (and I'm not sure how long it will last) - if Andrew's mom hasn't booked a cruise for us by the time we get back from our trip to Orlando in September we will really think about trying to start to get pregnant. If she has booked a cruise we will start in March (maybe while on the cruise). He agreed but I still don't think the compromise is the one he really wants. But honestly, I just don't want to have kids quite yet. We are trying to get our house ready to sell, then we have to find a new house and move in and get settled.  I'd like to do that NOT pregnant.  I'd like to be pregnant during a time when there is as little stress as possible.  I'll finish my MBA next summer as will Andrew and we should be in a new home and settled by thing. I think that would be a perfect time to start a family...unfortunately, he doesn't agree.  So our time line for starting a family has been pushed up dramatically.  I really want kids, like I REALLY want them and I can't wait to be a mom...but I'd like to be married for at least 6 months before we have a child! It doesn't help that everywhere we go there are adorable little children being totally adorable. Or when our neighbor announces she just found out she is pregnant (they've only been trying for like a month! Can we say super sperm! haha).  Or when my best friend as well as one of Andrew's best friends is expecting a kid as well. OR when my brother-in-law and his wife decided it was time for them to start trying. It's all over the place.  It's all we talk about, argue about, disagree about, and compromise about. I'm hoping we'll get on even footing soon. I'll bear with 4 more months of him giving me a hard time before we decide our next steps...until then I'll continue trying to ignore the baby-fest!

3 comments:

  1. babies, babies, babies! as much as i want you to have a little playmate for brody -- like, now!.. i'm with you on waiting...enjoy your alone time for awhile because everything changes in the blink of an eye! but, once you do have a little guy or gal it's the best thing in the world <3

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  2. I'm going to agree with Lauren... While your hubby is pushing, he needs to also remember that you are the one that makes the sacrifices (ex. no roller coasters, no alcohol, a sickly stomach, and sleep will become your best friend so no staying out until 2am). You would be surprised how fast everything changes just by those two little pink lines on that stick... enjoy the time that you guys have now to go out, be married, and still enjoy the things that you've always enjoyed doing... <3

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  3. I agree with the previous two comments...wait and enjoy married life first. :) Getting pregnant and having a baby is fun, but I don't think that B and I could have handled it shortly after getting married...and we had been together for 5 years beforehand! Your friend who posted above me is totally right - your life totally changes (and FAST) when you see those two little pink lines (or, in my case, "PREGNANT", because I did not want to rely on 2 little pink lines! haha).

    Enjoy being 2 before being 2+. And GO ON VACATION because that becomes hard after baby is born (especially that cruise...)! :)

    <3 <3

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